Imagine having the freedom of doing exactly what you want without any personal limitations on what happens along the way. This is self-liberty, this is happiness!
The fear of need is something every single one of us has. It’s the worst thing we all suffer from, but once we understand it we will be able to see the whole world from a completely different perspective. Once we get rid of we will unleash our full potential in every aspect.
What is the “Fear of Need”?
We enter this life completely dependent upon a parent or caregiver to make sure we receive the nourishment, care, and love necessary to make it through our first several years of life. Human Beings require other caring humans to make it to a point in maturity where personal or sole survival becomes an option.
We are born into a community – whether that community is a single mom or dad, a full, big family, a caregiving facility, or other home/house where care is given and received. There is never any question as to whether or not a human baby requires another mature individual to grow and develop. We know this to be true.
This particular fear – the fear of community and dependence, the fear of need – usually comes when we become self-reliant or fear being hurt again – by another human being or a condition, time, and place that has irrevocably scarred us or tainted our taste for dependence and our need for community
There are those who are comfortable with receiving help, assistance, or comfort from others. There are those who have tasted independence and it feeds their souls – they love not needing another human being or a communal experience. Perhaps it is merely to prove to themselves or the one/others who hurt them.
How does it affect you?
Relationships: So you’re in a relationship, you love your partner so much that you’re willing to compromise everything to work it out and have him/her happy with you at all times. Because you know that if you don’t do that, you will lose them. So you end up going out of your way and hurting yourself – sometimes unnoticeably – to keep the relationship going. You’re living in a cage, a beautiful one indeed, but still a cage. That’s what fear of need does to you.
Career: You have a job that’s paying the bills, feeding you, and you know this is not what you’re looking for after all. But if you lose it or even some times try to look for another job, you’re risking this stable job for something you love and will definitely excel more at. This way you will end up doing something you don’t like for a long time – sometimes a lifetime – and you will never be truly happy with your career even if it pays off!
So in any scenario where you’re scared to lose or take risks, you have the fear of need. It simply explains why you’re not truly genuinely happy.
Eliminate your fear!
Think of it this way. How many times will you get to live this life? Imagine you have a chance to die and try again. What’s the worst thing that could happen to you right now if you make a decision you’ve been scared to take for a long time? Die?! We will all die eventually so try again. What’s the worst that could happen? This is your fear!
Let’s try a scenario where you’re not scared of anything. And you go through with whatever makes you happy. Without fear or insecurity you will not be able to see the negative answers to all your decisions or questions. You will think of how happy you are and how liberated you will be.
Learn to be accepted as you are, not compromised with! Learn to do the things you like, not the things you need to do, eliminate the word need! Replace it with want, liberate yourself from needing something/someone to wanting something/someone. You will work harder, give more, achieve better and most importantly be happy with yourself about yourself.
Love effortlessly, if it doesn’t work out move on to continue spreading this love and do not let anything stop you. Remember, you only have one chance in life, make the best of.
But don’t be stupid, we’re talking about eliminating the fear of need not fear entirely, you can’t think that if someone points a gun at you, you shouldn’t be scared! But if this happens, think that you want to live, you don’t need to live. And act accordingly!
Think about it… Live free!